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Being Genuine and Authentic is Therapeutic
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    A person becomes a person through other persons. Old South African Proverb

    The demand for genuine people and authentic connection is on the rise, and we need the healing these relationships bring us more than ever. Vast research evidence verifies that we are hardwired for ‘authentic’ relationship attachments – for face to face interactions with people just being true to the ‘real you’.

    We become the best of who we are, find purpose, have less stress and live longer by spending time with like-minded friends and family. Being genuine, authentic and ‘real’ is considered one of the six ‘core conditions’ for a healthy relationship and for therapeutic change and growth. Carl Rogers founded Person Centered Psychotherapy in the 1950’s outlining three essential ingredients of a successful healing therapeutic relationship, regardless of theory or specific techniques: unconditional positive regard, genuineness and accurate empathy. But you don’t have to be in therapy for a relationship that heals. In the story of The Velveteen Rabbit, the toy rabbit becomes ‘real’ from the genuine love of the boy. What if we each became more of this kind of loving, authentic transforming relationship to those around us?

    Practice The Art of Being Yourself

    Practicing the art of ‘being yourself’ can be difficult. Sounds strange that we would struggle ‘being true to our real, best most authentic self’. But it requires that we are willing to be honest and open – aware of who we are and what is going on inside us – the good, bad and ugly – and being comfortable with it. Research has proven that as we flourish in becoming more authentically therapeutically genuine, we will bring change and growth to those around us. May this be true of you and me.

    • I don’t use a façade or hide behind a false front to be guarded or protect myself
    • I aim to practice the art of being genuine and real in relationships, reflecting the Love of God through me as an authentic person
    • I am not defensive. I am comfortable with myself, open to hearing and responding to constructive feedback and criticism honestly
    • I validate others insights, strengths and self-discovered decisions about change
    • I am able to share genuine facial expressions
    • I am spontaneous and provide freedom, yet not impulsivity
    • I have few discrepancies, showing consistency in my values, thought, feeling and behavior for each situation I am faced with
    • I am capable of deep self-disclosure, able to share genuinely both verbally and nonverbally when appropriate
    • I can openly and appropriately express my feelings, thoughts and reactions that are present in relationships with others

    Question: How are you growing in the art of ‘being yourself’ – more genuine and authentic – so that you are a ‘flourisher’ – a relationship that heals?

4 Responses to Being Genuine and Authentic is Therapeutic

  1. Marianne Walters /

    April 13, 2011 at 10:09 am

    I am trying to really listen more and talk less when in conversation with others. I believe I need to pay more attention to what they say and less about what I am going to say to them. I am also taking classes to help me in this area…life coaching and how to reach goals in life. Looking forward to your 1 day retreat in June. I just hope all is going to work out so I can make it this time.
    Thank you!! God Bless!!

  2. Diiamonds /

    April 13, 2011 at 1:20 pm

    Just to say : I’m really thankful for being updated with such useful therapeutic feeds. 🙂 Have a nice weekend

  3. Jenny Lowen /

    April 14, 2011 at 8:10 am

    Catherine, you’ll never know just how much ‘Flourish’ becomes ‘nourish’ to me!
    I can be my authentic self to many time-and-trouble-tested friends who have walked through life with me – even if for only a few years. There are some who don’t ‘get’ me for various reasons, one being that they’re not believers, but there are 1 or 2 who I’ve just met and we just click with our authenticity. Listening and initiating sharing are two qualities I’ve worked on. To find something that gets someone else to share, then to validate them and genuinely find something to affirm.
    Thanks again.

  4. Dr Catherine /

    April 15, 2011 at 11:15 pm

    Jenny, what a blessing to find such treasured friends to share with. They truly are safe places for us to fall into. Thank you for sharing how you are being ‘nourished’ by the words I share from my heart. Isn’t it amazing how we can connect across the oceans and feel a kindredness on our journeys together. Have a wonderful Palm Sunday !

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