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Secrets to Becoming a Better Loving Safe Place
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All the goodness of your life is nurtured in the soil of love. “Friendships make all of life shine brightly”. That is why Valentine’s Day is worth celebrating. It reminds us that we must love, value and appreciate each other – every day. Our intimate relationship attachments are the primary predictor of our life satisfaction, happiness and wellbeing. So we must make your meaningful connections the best they can be.

Love is who you are. Loving relationships can be cultivated. So, here are some proven ways you can intentionally nurture your relationships to become a better ‘loving safe place’.

1. Be kind and giving
“Let no one ever come to you without leaving being better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.” Mother Teresa

2. Be trustworthy
Be not only dependable, but also emotionally reliable and predictable.

3. Be emotionally available
Be fully present and attuned to the person you are with and care about.

4. Be physically available
Be willing to show up and give the gift of your presence and time.

5. Be considerate when responding
Choose to respond in the best interest of the person and your relationship.

6. Share good news and joy enthusiastically
Respond positively to daily good events in others’ lives. Share in their joys.

7. Be willing to forgive, let go of grudges and repair conflict
Forgiveness benefits us with more love, freedom, health, happiness, and wellbeing.

8. Be willing to grow as a person so you can grow in loving others.
Love and trust is built when we are willing to self-reflect, learn and change. Become a loving safe place.

Healthy relationships don’t just happen. Each relationship is a garden of its own, needing tending and cultivation to grow. Love is who you are, the way you live and the way you act. It is a system that is centered in your heart and your brain. If you want more love in your life, reflect on how you can be more loving, savoring and cherishing time together with your spouse, friends, family and community.

Question: How can you become a better loving safe place, expressing love and appreciation for the meaningful relationships in your life? Leave your response here.

“Friendship is one of the greatest gifts a human being can receive.
It is a bond beyond common goals, common interests, or common histories.
Friendship is being with the other in joy and sorrow,
even when we cannot increase the joy or decrease the sorrow.
Friendship makes all of life shine brightly.”
Henri Nouwen

2 Responses to Secrets to Becoming a Better Loving Safe Place

  1. Jenny Lowen / Reply

    February 14, 2011 at 2:28 pm

    When a friend needs prayer, I not only tell her/him I’ll pray – but I’ll actually do it! Ask the Lord for an encouraging word or scripture and deliver it in a card or email (not a text!I’m not good at them!) that takes time and effort, even if it’s a little. Continue praying and keep my word, till I hear that their situation has improved.
    For someone with cancer that may be a long time, but they need every last bit of prayer support they can have. I did!

    • Dr Catherine / Reply

      March 2, 2011 at 9:32 pm

      Jenny, What an inspiration you are as you minister to those around you. Thank you for being so faithful. Bless you

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